How do we humans get stuck in ruts and keep ourselves repeating the same mistakes and bad behaviors over and over again? We are trained early on to feel fear of the unknown and to ‘know’ our limits. Our peers, parent’s, mentors and teachers mean well but, sometimes they teach us things that actually harm us as adults like;
- Be patient
- Don’t show off
- Be careful
- Don’t talk to strangers
- Don’t speak until spoken to
- Don’t reinvent the wheel
- Don’t overdo it
- Know your limits
- Never eat your dessert first
- That’s impossible
- Quit being such a dreamer
- Don’t take the easy way out
- Be quiet
- Don’t think big, you will only disappoint yourself
Some of our beliefs are hidden and we don’t even realize we are creating our ‘BAD LUCK’ or, the repeated drama that seems to plaque our lives until, we notice that life is giving us SHOCKS or signs that MAKE us pay attention. The signs can be small and repeated or quite LARGE like, we get fired from a job or our spouse leaves us. We can start the waking up process by asking questions, getting ourselves into therapy, reading self-help books or going to motivational training and classes.
If you’re stuck in a cycle and you can’t seem to figure out why, it’s not your fault. Most of these beliefs we have ingrained in us are formed at a very young age and we don’t even remember them. Some of your beliefs are good, solid and helpful but, some of them no longer serve you and they keep filtering your experiences in a harmful way because you fail to notice and eliminate them.
If you really want to get a deeper grasp of your potential and focus on specific areas of your life, seek out processes, techniques and programs that will open your eyes & ears to unlock your limits and limiting beliefs.
I love this example of how we get trained early on and how we do not question why we can never get ahead…
Do you know how they train elephant’s in the circus to walk around in a circle, do stunts and obey the ringmaster or trainer’s every command?
When the elephants are very young, they tie a heavy chain or rope around its foot and drive a long stake in the ground to which the other end of the rope is tied. The baby elephant tries and tries to walk away for a long time, but finally begins to know its limits and stops trying.
As the baby elephant grows into a huge beast weighing in at several tons, the trainer removes the huge chain and replaces it with a small rope and short stake. This full-grown adult can easily pull the stake out, but it doesn’t because of its conditioning with the heavier chain and stake.
What is holding us back? Why can’t we break out of the rut we find ourselves in when all we need to do is walk away in order to be free? The answer is the powerful conditioning and training we received. Our minds and dreams are certainly as powerful as the elephant’s physical strength and weight—but how many people can’t seize the opportunity for freedom because they think that it is not possible?
Do not make the mistake of thinking that these lessons do not apply to you because you are not an elephant. The same thing happens to millions of people all the time.
I’m recommending a GREAT book! I Am Potential: Eight Lessons on Living, Loving, and reaching your dreams by Patrick Henry Hughes